Although many times you will hear that it is better to let the children resolve the conflict themselves, there are situations in which it is necessary to react
Many parents are willing to intervene in children's quarrels, but you will often hear the advice that it is better to let the children resolve the conflict themselves.
Conflicts and quarrels between children during games can be learning moments in which children learn about empathy and develop social skills that help them have friends in the future, writes "Fatherly", Telegraph reports.
Parental intervention in conflict is not always a good choice, but there are times when it is necessary for parents to intervene.
- Parents or any other adult should always intervene in the conflict if they see signs of abuse - says Holly Shchiffrin, Professor of Psychology at the University of Mary Washington.
Violent behavior can cause harm to the other child, especially if there is a difference in strength - the abuser is older and more mature.
If there is any physical danger, parents should "intervene" in the conflict and protect their child and prevent them from endangering others - says the psychologist.
– When a conflict starts, it is best to let the children try to solve the problem themselves. Through these early experiences children learn the skills to help communicate with others and solve problems.
When parents see the conflict getting worse, it's time to intervene.
It is good for them to have such an approach in which they will make the children present their case and also their opinion to resolve this conflict. Also, a parent can offer a solution to a controversial situation - says Shchiffrin.
Here's how to intervene if a conflict occurs on the playground:
• If they are not in physical danger, try to let children resolve the conflict themselves.
• If it escalates, approach the children to talk
• Let everyone tell their side of the story in their own words
• Help them find a solution
• Do not impose your solutions
• Bring them back to the game and don't show anger
It is important to encourage constructive conflict resolution in children. They have to learn that they can fight and still be friends.
Children from conflicts can also learn how to stand up for themselves, express their position, debate, accept other people's arguments, how to give others the right to think differently, and how to restore the relationship to balance. /Telegraph/
