It is a common thought in society that men cheat more often, while an emotionally neglected woman cries at home. So what happens when those roles reverse? Is there a reason why some women cheat on their husbands, even when he is faithful?
Women who cheat have a reason just as much as men, but no one really talks about it. We always say that men cheat, be careful. But women never cheat either, as if female infidelity is taboo. We are all human and sometimes we both make mistakes. But there is a new pattern of infidelity in which more and more men seek counseling after learning that their wives are cheating on them. These men talk about how they stayed faithful, hoping that they will be able to forgive the affair and stay together with their beloved wife.
It is worth noting that many of these faithful men defied gender norms, allowing themselves to be vulnerable and asking for help. They have a high emotional intelligence, express their emotions openly and feel things deeply and passionately.
Why do women cheat at all?
Samantha Burns, a relationship expert for Your Tango, says that through her extensive research on gender differences and infidelity, she has shown that women cheat for emotional reasons, using love or a strong relationship as an excuse for their actions. while men cheat more for physical reasons, such as dissatisfaction, their sex life or because of physical attraction.
Do women cheat under the influence of hormones or because they are unhappy?
Faithful men often couldn't figure out what was missing or what could be improved, feeling overwhelmed by their partner's infidelity. Unfortunately, the men said their wives never directly told them they were unhappy with their marriages. It's clear that there was some communication dysfunction. However, it's not always poor communication, lack of companionship, or diminished emotional connection that leads to infidelity. Through her counseling experiences, Burns has witnessed the contradictions of stereotypical gender differences in infidelity. For example, there are women who feel a strong emotional connection to their spouses but fall short in the passion and excitement of a relationship. These women often cheat with multiple extramarital partners. I've heard them ask many times, 'What's wrong with me?' They wonder if they fit into a traditional marriage or if it was more natural for them to have multiple partners over the years," Burns says.
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Thoughts and feelings that precede unbelief
For starters, why do people cheat on their partners at all? There is no definitive answer. It can be a simple desire for sex or a lack of sexual or emotional needs. But why do women cheat? Cheating or an affair is said to happen because the relationship is about to break up, but women have described their betrayal as an exciting challenge outside of marriage and family life.
Burns has heard women say their partners are too loving and give them too much control, admitting that when given an inch of space, they take a mile. They say that they never intended to harm their husbands or that it was not malicious but a selfish pursuit of their desires. They only thought about immediate gratification, instead of thinking about the consequences of their actions.
"I have also noticed that some adulterous women have a history of sexual abuse and depression, constantly seeking happiness on the principle of 'the grass is greener in someone else's garden,' instead of learning how to find happiness in their own situation. current," said Burns.
Sociologist Alicia Walker, author of The Secret Life of a Cheated Woman: Power, Pragmatism, and Pleasure in Female Infidelity, had more to say on the subject. In her book, Walker interviewed 46 heterosexual couples where the women used the Ashley Madison website to purposely seek out and hook up with other men, and what Walker found was that these women saw their actions as a “ valve to release anger", hurt feelings and deprivation of attention they experienced in their marriages".
He also said in her research that the motive doesn't vary much by gender, and among other reasons you can find just as many women as men cheating for sexual pleasure, revenge, attention. "There's no common reason," Esther Perel said after asking people about their love lives for 34 years. "Definitely a fear of aging and death. Fear of boredom. Will there ever be something new and exciting again?"
Of course, there are others who find their excuses within the relationship, neglect being perhaps the biggest. "So the main reason women make the decision to cheat is because they feel neglected ... or just not loved enough."
How common is it for women to cheat?
Overall, men are more likely to cheat than women, with 20 percent of men and 13 percent of women saying they had sex with someone other than their spouse while married, according to data from the Institute for Family Studies. The chance that a woman will cheat on her husband is about six percent. The study also found that women in the 18-29 age group were slightly more likely than men of the same age to have marital infidelity.
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How does a woman behave when she cheats?
Suddenly she's not as available as she used to be – she may have a lot to do, but it could be a red flag if she prefers to stay at home while her husband goes to a family dinner.
She pays more attention to her appearance – if she's gone from jeans and a simple t-shirt and short heels, it might not go over well with men and could mean she wants to impress someone else. If she has a relationship, she feels sexually alive again and this will be reflected in her clothes.
He looks guilty – if a woman starts to feel guilty most, if not all, of the time she's around her husband, it means she's facing the fact that she's doing something that hurts him. Sometimes guilt eats away at a person's subconscious and can eventually reveal the truth. He spends more time with his friends – it's okay to hang out with his friends every now and then, but if he doesn't spend much time with his partner, that's a red flag.
This is especially telling if she insists that her husband stay at home while she goes out, and even worse if it's a friend the husband has never heard of.
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