Three communication styles that can destroy a relationship, according to a psychologist

Communication is the foundation of any relationship, but when it becomes toxic, it can destroy it. Psychologist Nick Wignall argues that there are three key toxic communication styles that are particularly destructive: passive, aggressive, and passive-aggressive communication.

By recognizing and changing these patterns, it is possible to maintain relationships and build healthier relationships. So, to recognize them, the psychologist emphasized the main characteristics of each of these three styles.

Passive communication

"Passive communication involves avoiding expressing one's feelings and needs in order to avoid conflicts. People with this style often adapt to others and hide their thoughts, which in the long run leads to feelings of anger and resentment because their needs are not being met. Recognizing an exaggerated fear of conflict and honestly expressing your desires is the key to overcoming this pattern,” Wignall told YourTango.

Aggressive communication

Aggressive communication means expressing one's desires in a way that ignores the rights and feelings of others.

The psychologist explains: “People with this style often use anger as a way to cope with their insecurities, which leads to damaged relationships and feelings of isolation. Working on awareness and facing your fears helps reduce the need for aggressive behavior."

Passive-aggressive communication

The passive-aggressive style combines the fear of conflict and the need for control. People who use this style express their frustrations indirectly, through sarcasm, the "silent treatment" or unacknowledged anger, Wignall says.

"This model of communication destroys trust and makes it difficult to solve problems. The key is to avoid sarcasm and clearly express feelings in an honest manner," he explained.

Fortunately, toxic communication patterns can be overcome by adopting a confident style, adds the psychologist. "Safe communication is based on honesty and respect and allows you to express your wishes and feelings in a way that does not damage the relationship. This is the key to building healthy and lasting relationships, full of trust and understanding," concluded Wignall.