Children constantly fighting? See what you can do

If you have two or more children, it is unlikely that they will grow up, at least occasionally, without conflict.

Why does this happen?

Because children, like adults, measure their strengths, fighting for more attention, influence, and respect.

And since they are still children, then they also make mistakes, not always choosing the best methods for achieving what they want.

Since parents are "competent" in resolving their own conflicts, it is essential that you understand these types of problems seriously and carefully, reports the Telegraph.

Stop the argument and help them calm down

As soon as you notice that the children are fighting, immediately stop it. Otherwise the little ones can lose control and seriously hurt each other.

Before you start talking about what's likely, sit down so you're all on the same level. Choose your words and listen carefully to what they have to say.

Never hold to one side

Equality and equal treatment should definitely be a priority. Support the experience to put yourself in the role of "judge". Keep in mind that it is never possible to determine the real trigger, unless you were present from the first moment, which is most often not the case, you should definitely accept it.

Let it be your rule that either ALL who were part of the quarrel or NOBODY will be punished.

Teach children that compromise is always the best solution

If arguments between children often end in beatings, do your best to make it clear to them that fighting is unacceptable and that hitting is only allowed as a method of defense. This feels like mission impossible, so you're a parent.

Another problem is that early growing children hardly understand the concept of compromise. That's why it's important to be there, because that's the only way you'll be able to orient the conversation in the direction that brings solutions. Provide a place where children can release anger. Choose a pillow together, and make sure everyone knows it's the ONLY thing in the house you're allowed to hit in a moment of anger.

Be understanding

If you've just heard one of your children tell the other that they "hate" it, that can be terrifying, but when it comes to children, words don't carry the weight they do when adults say them, don't forget that .

Reward good behavior

and in this case we do not think in material things. Reward them by telling them how happy and proud you are when you see them doing something together, when they play well, when they help each other.

In most cases, thanks have a much more powerful effect than reprimand.

Be a good example for them

Do not quarrel in an unprecedented way in front of children. Don't curse while driving. Do not speak ill of others.

Don't slam the door when you're angry. Never. Children do what they see, not what you tell them. /Telegraph/