Charm and play with feelings

It is a form of communication without words, with signals: looks, hand movements, facial expressions. It is eroticism, unspoken, but felt in the air; just like a scent that makes you turn your head without thinking twice.

You even wonder when your eyes fall on a woman, who passes by on the street... She may not even be the icon of beauty: A few extra kilos, a little big nose; but you still can't take your eyes off of it. Femininity, but also security in her steps to the redeemed walk; glances quickly and the corner of the red lips moves with a hint of irony.

Attractive, naturally or…
Someone has said that charm is the formula of a magical liquid, the drinking of which transforms you into a sexually irresistible being; it is unlimited hormonal give and take. Human fantasies have no end in this respect, starting from fairy tales with "Cinderellas" who transform into princesses, to Hollywood movies. According to researchers, sexual attraction is a chemical reaction, of pheromones (hormones of desire), but it can also be considered as a mental state: To be and not to look. It means to appreciate what you feel and how you feel it. To accept the imperfection of your body, but to recognize the physical strengths. Details are never unimportant, on the contrary they should emphasize your individuality; because today we live in a world where values ​​are always being unified, but what is special is the quality that is valued the most.

Sex strategies
First weapon: Gaze. It is not said to be the eyes of a goddess; shape or color does not always matter, but the intensity of the emotion conveyed through the eyes is crucial. They say that the eyes always betray you, because they express the truth. The truth is that, to create immediate emotion in others, there are no parameters or methods to follow. Emotion is instinctive, as is the withdrawal reaction. The only motto is: Spontaneity. Naturally born feelings are always the most expressive and emotional. To like yourself means to be liked by others, but to achieve such a state of mind you must have confidence in yourself. The acquired security cannot be variable or unstable, this feeling should accompany us even in our "black" days, when everything goes backwards and we are alone.

With small steps towards safety
How to learn to love yourself and others to love you? Being charming does not mean dressing provocatively, high heels and cleavage should be used appropriately; feminine intelligence means being attractive even in jeans, the important thing is to feel comfortable with yourself. To be liked the way you are, being sure that what you own, no one else has. Reference points, when you lack support on your feet, are worthless: Perhaps by cultivating a healthy narcissism and a little self-irony we would manage to position ourselves where we want. There isn't just one way to be attractive.

Attraction also means eroticism?
Yes. Especially if we use our 5 senses: Musicality, the low tone of the voice, which makes you imagine the whispers in a hypothetical intimate situation. Erotic is a beautiful female hand, which expresses with movement and touch. Erotic is a woman who enjoys good food. Having dinner with a man, perfect in appearance, and then limiting yourself to just one bite of the food in front of you, is a "punch in the stomach" for our seductive potential: Men are attracted to women who know how to use their gustatory senses. This expresses a pronounced eroticism, as it is related to the feeling of pleasure. It is a game with sensations: To create as much emotion and attraction as possible, expressing the pleasure you feel. The key is to channel impulses, to bombard him with seduction. But be careful, be careful not to create oversaturation in the other.

How to understand if he cheats on you?
How does it change if he cheats? When a man won't reveal himself, he usually doesn't neglect his partner. It even does the opposite: the affection increases, to the point of excess. He creates complex situations just to show "how much he loves you". Caution: After the milk reaches a boil, it is poured. What are "spy" signals? Manifestations of sudden and unjustified jealousy; in short, there is something that "burns" them and does not leave them alone. Or the expansion of the sexual repertoire. Stable relationships lead to a point of predictability in bed: If you notice a change in style or reference, there is a good chance that he learned this from his lover.
How to act? Note that you are saving your own "property". Find reasons or excuses not to meet with you. The ones of being too tired to meet or "I got a job out of the blue". In any case, before you open it as a concern, you should be sure that it is not just your assumptions. If you accuse him without reason, you can create problems in your relationship.

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