Therapists: If you want a good relationship with your children, avoid these phrases

The way parents communicate with their children can have long-term consequences on their emotional development and relationships.

Once common sarcastic phrases are now considered toxic because they undermine children's self-confidence and make open communication difficult.

Experts warn that parents' words shape children's ability to connect with others, and numerous studies confirm how inappropriate communication can lead to emotional problems in adulthood.

So, according to research and experts, these are toxic phrases that can drive children away from their parents.

"Do as I say, not as I do."

Parents who expect their children to follow rules they themselves do not follow send a confusing message. Children naturally imitate their parents' behavior, as confirmed by research from the Center for the Legal Profession, which shows that children often choose the same professions as their parents.

Social worker Sherry Gaba points out that emotionally immature parents "often dramatize minor problems and quickly become hostile," which makes it even more difficult to adopt positive behavioral models, YourTango writes.

“I will give you a reason to cry.”

This phrase was once a common way to get children to obey, but research shows that intimidation has long-term consequences. Psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein warns that "yelling often causes resentment in children and alienates them from their parents."

Children who feel fear instead of understanding are less likely to share their emotions, which makes them more vulnerable to manipulation and impairs their ability to express feelings in a healthy way.

"You'll have privacy when you start paying rent"

Parents who deny their children privacy often believe they are doing so for their own safety, but such an approach can create feelings of distrust and alienation. Psychologist Carl E. Pickhardt recommends that parents try to talk openly with their children rather than setting strict rules.

"By asking fewer questions and showing respect for a teenager's privacy, parents can achieve greater openness and trust in the relationship," Pickhardt emphasizes.

"Some children are hungry, and you complain about it?"

Removing children's emotions by comparing them to more difficult life situations can lead to feelings of isolation and low self-esteem. Psychologist Jeffrey D. Shahidullah recommends that instead of minimizing feelings, parents "should reduce the pressure on the child and increase positive interactions," which helps strengthen the emotional connection.

"Are you depressed? You have a roof over your head and food on the table, what more do you need?"

Children's emotional difficulties cannot be alleviated by material conditions. When parents do not recognize or accept children's feelings, they may unconsciously encourage withdrawal and emotional distance.

A study found that children who feel rejected by their parents have a higher risk of developing depression and destructive behavior. Instead of pushing emotions away, parents should actively listen, Shahidullah concludes.