How does the mood of parents affect children?

Parenting is about much more than what we say to our children. Our tone, facial expressions, body language, even our unspoken concerns leave their mark on the little observers who soak us up like a sponge every day.

Research has shown that children are extremely sensitive to the emotional states of adults, especially parents.

What do children "get" from us?

A phenomenon known as emotional contagion explains why children sense our moods. If we are stressed, anxious, or in a bad mood, children sense it, even when we try to hide it. Then, their behavior often becomes anxious, tearful, or defiant, not because they want to be uncomfortable, but because they are confused and seeking emotional reassurance.

Children as a mirror

Children learn not only from what we tell them, but above all from what their parents do. If adults shout, slam doors, or retreat into silence in stressful situations, the child learns that this is a way to cope with stress. On the other hand, if they see a parent take a deep breath, ask for a break, or say calmly: “I’m angry now, but I’ll calm down and we’ll talk,” they too learn how to cope with difficult emotions.

How to regulate your mood for the sake of your child?

We can't always be smiling and calm, and that's not the goal. The key is emotional honesty and healthy coping strategies. Here are some tips:

Name your emotions: Instead of trying to cover up your anger, you can say, "Mom is tired today and needs some peace."

Take care of yourself: Getting enough sleep, physical activity, and support from loved ones directly affect your ability to react calmly.

Apologize: If you raise your voice, explain and apologize. Children also learn from our mistakes.